how to find your style + the confidence to wear it

how to find your style + the confidence to wear it

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In this chatty video, I answer one of my most asked questions: how do I find my style and the confidence to wear what I want? I break it down into steps, from assessing what clothes you already wear the most in your wardrobe, to finding aesthetic inspiration, building a moodboard, and tips for going shopping and styling outfits.

yellow top: princess polly (
shorts: abrand (
heart necklace: vanessa mooney (similar:
thin choker: mejuri (
heart choker: melody ehsani (similar:

i also have an inspo account @bestdressedinspo 🙂

what’s your name? ashley
what’s your instagram? @best.dressed
how old are you? 21 (born in 1998)
how tall are you? 5’5″
what’s your ethnicity? half british and half burmese
what equipment do you use to film?
➭ main camera: panasonic lumix gh5s (
➭ 12-35mm lens (
➭ mic: rode videomic pro+ (
➭ vlog camera: canon powershot g7x mark ii
➭ canon m50 (
➭ editing: final cut pro

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  1. Deborah Ooi on August 1, 2021 at 9:18 pm

    I genuinely wanted to search for my style, and I knew ashley did a video on it a while back so here I am. What I did not predict was how much I miss this big sister character.

    Wherever you are Ashley, I hope you are doing well. ❤

  2. Daijo b00 on August 1, 2021 at 9:18 pm

    I like all different types of aesthetics that’s why i can’t decide

  3. Piizies on August 1, 2021 at 9:21 pm

    Ashley is literally the most inspirational, and relatable you tubers I’ve ever watched

  4. Ovee 111 on August 1, 2021 at 9:21 pm

    I like this style n it looks good on me but I just am insecure of my body cuz I’m not rlly skinny like the rest of my frnds 😭🥺

  5. Beatriz C. Wladyka on August 1, 2021 at 9:25 pm

    The only problem is when your mother is like:
    No! You have million of clothes and you want SPECIFICALLY ONE TYPE OF CLOTHING? There are millions of poor children who don’t have good clothes like yours! Really :/?

  6. Record Noise on August 1, 2021 at 9:25 pm

    ok get my like and get out of here

  7. Emma Rusinak on August 1, 2021 at 9:29 pm

    Literally I’m every style, one day I’m emo and one day I’m a soft girl

  8. Leave me alone on August 1, 2021 at 9:29 pm

    I like all aesthetics when it comes to clothes, I just need to find confidence

  9. jia narang on August 1, 2021 at 9:30 pm

    LOVE YOU!!!!<3

  10. hayden on August 1, 2021 at 9:31 pm

    im already stuck at step 1 because all my clothes are second hand from my family 😭 ive never picked out any of my wardrobe

  11. Gwen Modi on August 1, 2021 at 9:31 pm


  12. Mairsile on August 1, 2021 at 9:32 pm

    *STEP 1. Assess your current wardrobe*
    — what clothes do you wear most / like most (that you already own)?
    —> what do these have in common? (Colour scheme, fabric, brand)

    *STEP 2. Find your (fashion) inspiration*
    — Instagram
    — Pinterest
    — Tumblr
    — Magazines, movies, books
    —> What kind of style do you like? Why?
    —>> What kind of style do you not like? Why?

    *STEP 3. Create a moodboard*
    — Speaks for itself 😀
    —> What style are you drawn to? (Colours, type of aesthetic)
    —>> Refine! (Would I really wear this? Does this reflect my personality?)

    *STEP 4. Actually buy clothes lol*
    — Choose five pieces that seem to appear most often on your moodboard & go out and buy those (just those, no getting distracted x’D)

    *STEP 5. Practice*
    — Keep developing your style & putting together outfits – trial and error

  13. Hey on August 1, 2021 at 9:32 pm

    i have a style, but my mum doesn’t like it…
    she won’t let me wear the clothes i like out hahahhaa

  14. Laney Skye on August 1, 2021 at 9:33 pm

    Yea, something big I do on Pinterest is before I save it to my board, I ask myself if I would wear it in public, if yes, save it to the board, if no, then save it to a separate board so you can go back to it.

  15. Sondra Thorsland on August 1, 2021 at 9:35 pm

    I’m stuck I want like a bruh girl look or like vintage street wear

  16. Ginger and Lady on August 1, 2021 at 9:39 pm

    I cant even have clothes that I like cause my mom lectures me and I’m uncomfortable with talking about certain clothes when I go shopping with my dad

  17. Katherine Segrue on August 1, 2021 at 9:39 pm

    I would also totally recommend thrift stores when trying out a new style!! You can get a lot of pieces for cheaper and it’s less of a risk if you end up not liking the style bc you didn’t spend a ton of money on it

  18. Chayse on August 1, 2021 at 9:39 pm

    People giving you overall ways to fix your style :

    Me: Pinterest and sitting in my room with my $0

  19. Kaeinlya on August 1, 2021 at 9:39 pm

    Who else is watching this in 2021 because you forgot how to get dressed?

  20. PersianCasual on August 1, 2021 at 9:39 pm

    Another thing you can do is pick out emojis that you like, what you gravitate towards could be a hint of what style you like, favorite color, etc.

    For example: picking your favorite heart based on your favorite color: ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🖤🤍🤎

    Or you can pick your favorite miscellaneous emojis depending on what style you like: 🍓🎀🪞🌷🏩

    Or you can pick activities relating to what you enjoy doing and you can form your style around that: ⛸, 🎸, 🎮

  21. ella kirschbaum on August 1, 2021 at 9:39 pm

    i agree with your whole confidence thing but life gave me a lemon when they gave me a cousin my age that criticizes me for caring about my style.

  22. Riley Chachoes on August 1, 2021 at 9:42 pm

    broo my sister is the only one who likes my fits in my fam
    my sister style : 🐸goblin~fairy core and grandma💐
    my style: ⛓🎀alt / neon and kawaii 🧪🧸⛓

  23. JOSYL OSBP on August 1, 2021 at 9:42 pm

    you inspired me alot, i am having a hard time to figure out how can i change my style, i am not satisfied on my daily outfit, i took a lot of effort making my self looking good. thank you so much. maybe after a year i can change my wardrobe😊😊

  24. Late Motha on August 1, 2021 at 9:44 pm

    Oh, behave yourself! 🤣

    Call me when you’re 18!

  25. Mali Zee on August 1, 2021 at 9:45 pm

    I have a spiral notebook filled with magazine cuts outs! (Old school fashion serial killer ha) thank you for ur great advice! I have my work cut out for me! No pun intended…

  26. Sinsitive on August 1, 2021 at 9:45 pm

    Giant hoodies

    I’m an extremely sweaty person

    I overheat easily

    I like drowning in fabric

  27. Bumble on August 1, 2021 at 9:47 pm

    I absolutely loved watching this video and it honestly helped me more than I expected!

  28. Elsa Klein on August 1, 2021 at 9:47 pm

    thank u sm!!!

  29. Adishri Jadhav on August 1, 2021 at 9:50 pm

    I should probably loose weight then watch this video

  30. Eugene Corey on August 1, 2021 at 9:51 pm

    this fashion disaster to this fashionable disaster. love that

  31. •sweet orange• on August 1, 2021 at 9:51 pm

    When your mom buys all your clothes and you dislike all the clothes she buys you but you’re too scared to tell her you don’t want a neon t-shirt with a unicorn that’s saying “I might be weird to you but I’m just different than other girls” :

  32. Riley Chachoes on August 1, 2021 at 9:56 pm

    bro my fashion closet started with sparkle flips and skinny jeans so i basically threw everything away

  33. Princess Cornejo on August 1, 2021 at 9:56 pm

    When your tanned be like👁👄👁

  34. ThatOneOtaku .-. on August 1, 2021 at 9:58 pm

    “Do you gravitate more towards pastels to do you reach for black and white clothing most?”


  35. Kkaebsong on August 1, 2021 at 9:59 pm

    I love black. Seriously. I open my wardrobe and choose black everytime. I don’t know what to do, if I’d turn towards my love for black I’d literally wear nothing but black, no other colors. Is it alright? 😭

  36. Makaia Rekord on August 1, 2021 at 10:03 pm

    "the best place to start is looking at the clothes you already wear and that you already love."
    Me: looks down at all my clothes that I hate, but my mom made me get

  37. Rosie on August 1, 2021 at 10:03 pm

    THANK YOU!!! <3333

  38. Georgia Nichole on August 1, 2021 at 10:03 pm

    I have a blog

  39. Kayla Jane on August 1, 2021 at 10:04 pm

    step 1: assess current wardrobe: *stares at harry potter shirts*

  40. querencia on August 1, 2021 at 10:05 pm

    Step 1: assess your wardrobe

    Me: looks at the one plaid dress i love and remembers the baggy jeans i found at the store and wanted
    i have realized i am a comfy person

  41. Maryam Yekini on August 1, 2021 at 10:05 pm

    Thing is… I just wear whatever my hands grab first

  42. ily on August 1, 2021 at 10:06 pm

    i got stuck on step one.. 🥲

  43. dan on August 1, 2021 at 10:06 pm

    i only recently started to put effort in the way i present myself, and i found that small steps help a lot. i remember the first time i was wearing a jean jacket at school instead of some random hoodie and i was so nervous (for no reason at all??). then a girl in my class complimented my jacket (idk if she was being genuine or not) and i got a huge confidence boost

  44. Matelyn VanWinkle on August 1, 2021 at 10:07 pm

    Bruh when she was talking about Instagram, I got a Instagram notification 💀

  45. creativehorsequeen on August 1, 2021 at 10:08 pm

    This is really helpful for me because I’ve been wearing a school uniform for most of my life so I have absolutely no idea how to do fashion. I did what she suggested and made a Pinterest board for fashion and it has helped. I do want to add something to that advise though. Make sections on your board so you have a Formal Wear section, a Casual section, and a This Is Totally Unpractical For Me To Wear But I Still Like It section.

  46. Jasmine's world on August 1, 2021 at 10:09 pm

    Cottage core and alt for me lol ik the two don’t match but I really loveeeee my style

  47. Kimberly Garcia on August 1, 2021 at 10:11 pm

    i have so many pictures on pinterest of how i want to dress but idk where to start to buy it

  48. Angela Aguilar on August 1, 2021 at 10:11 pm

    Step one: have a glow up

  49. burano peach on August 1, 2021 at 10:13 pm

    I kinda wanna look like a sexy circus clown 😁

  50. Kavya Jaiswal on August 1, 2021 at 10:15 pm

    Can you please tell me how to do the hairstyle which you have done in this video?
    It’s very pretty:):)